Not All Men Are Evil.

Listen up. 
PEOPLE OF ALL BACKGROUNDS,
Binary and Non-Binary. 
There are some SERIOUS misconceptions about MEN that a lot of people hold onto that are holding us ALL back. 

Men are not to be generalized about.
Do YOU like it when people generalize about your identity?
NO.
So stop being a hypocrite.

We live in a world where EVERYONE is being GROOMED to consume information that resonates at a LOW energy. 
To tear us apart from one another.
By ripping at things we can not change like our gender!

Every day new people are born.
Others die.
Everyone comes from some where different. 
Everyone has their own free will and ability to think freely. 
When has it ever worked to be negative and point fingers at a person or group of people blaming them for your or the worlds problems?

Men struggle with a lot of the same things women do. 
Men get insecure.
Men get abused.
Men get used.
Men experience sexism. 
Men have gender roles.
Men are put into boxes.

Yes there are certain things as a COMMUNITY we need to nurture into our masculine energies but we are MEN AND WOMEN on the inside. Why do we feel so far away from our masculine energies?

Let me explain how I got to this place in my ways of thinking. 
As a little girl the world scared me. 
My mother was very protective knowing we live in a world where SEX is sold and PEOPLE are OBJECTIFIED. 
More so we live in a world where innocence and kindness are slaughtered by brainwashing and domestication of the human mind.
No matter who you are there are forces of ugliness and negativity trying to take your peace away just because it can be taken. 
We allow our peace to be taken.
We allow our reality to be molded by historical discriminative thoght patterns. 

We have to be STRONG.
We have to LOVE.
We have to love regardless of how we perceive things.
I was preyed upon. 
I can say I was preyed upon because I was a woman. 
But I won't simplify to experience to playing the victim of being a 'defenseless' woman. 
It makes next to no sense.
I was not well informed about the world and it's ugliness. 
How can you explain rape culture to a child of the early 90's?
I was preyed upon because we live in a world where ALL people are part of a cycle. 
A cycle that is bigger than ALL of our lives.
We are in a cycle of life and the goodness is off balance.
Once you realize the goodness is off balance then you can try to correct it with YOUR OWN ACTIONS. 

We play the victim and that is when we have played into the cycle for the worse. 

Realizing that everyone is a force of nature can help you see that all life is amazing. 
There is good in everyone. 
What is good?
Good is being your personal best for yourself.
Good is LOVING YOURSELF.
Loving yourself is reflecting that love into the world. 
When people are hurt, manipulated, abused, they either realize the mistake and learn the lesson or they continue the cycle because they could not see the problem in the behavior taught to them by another person or experience. 
There are some bad people out here TEACHING the wrong ideas about life. 
There are bad PEOPLE perpetuating a problem that was either never highlighted to them or they have a psychological problem. 
These bad people are not just men. 
These bad people are people of all shapes, sizes, cultures, communities, upbringings, the works. 
Stop playing into these binary forms of thought. 
We have to be more OPEN minded to solve LARGE SCALE PROBLEMS.

These 'Men' that we generalize about are people. 
They are people who are sequences of what came before them and their experiences in this life. 
Take the ages old piece of advise and put yourself in a mans shoes. 
There is so much pressure for Men to be strong, never cry, work every day, bring home all the money, be perfect in bed, be perfect in general, there is an incredibly small beauty standard for men to fit in, the works.
How do we expect men to know exactly what women need if we polarize the situation to say all men are bad?
That will never work for you.
That is ignorance.
We have to communicate with one another regardless of our gender or identity. 

There is almost NO way to describe what it's like, how it feels, the mental damage of being raped or assaulted sexually. 
How can we expect people or men to understand this happening if we don't allow men to share their experiences with the world?
This is not just a phenomenon that happens to women. 
Men are raped too.
Men are raped by women and men. 
Men are sexually assaulted. 
We as a society disregard their cries for something more by putting them in boxes.
Boxes that belittle their side and their perspective.  
Men are objectified CONSTANTLY. 
Men aren't believed when they report rape or assault. 
There is some crazy idea that men are invincible and responsible for everyone and everything. 
No.
We are responsible for ourselves.
We need to trust one another and be vulnerable with one another. 
How can we place blame on all men for the trauma of women in this world when we have to work on ourselves to change? 
We have to be sensitive. 
Men are told they can not have emotions or they are not men. 
Men are told they are 'gay' like it's a bad thing when they are sensitive. 
Men are expected to have HUGE penises.
Men are taught to hate women.
Men are taught to hate homosexuality.
Men are taught to objectify women. 
Men are taught to abuse sex and sexual acts. 
Think about the narrative around being a man. 
Maybe you can't?
Try asking the men in your life questions.
LISTEN TO THEM.
Don't make it about women. 
Listen to them.
Calmly talk about these issues. 
As a person who has rigorously studied my own mind and biases and where they are rooted I discovered the blame I was pushing onto men was my own insecurity in myself. It was rooted in being sexist against men. My problems were rooted in thinking  Poor me, I am a defenseless woman. The moment you take yourself out of these stupid stereo types we identify with because of exposure to them at a young age you are so much more free and can SEE that Men and Women alike are worried about the same things. We have a lot of the same issues but we are groomed differently in society to hate one another because of our repressed sexualities in a world full of people made from sex. We are domesticated to believe that men and women are different so that we stay away from one another instead of coming together. This is an age old issue that to this day plagues our minds and it begins at a young age. 

DARE to step out of what you think you know. 
Dare to question your own thoughts. 
Dare to love men and give them love regardless of the fake news telling you to generalize and put all men into a box.


Toxic masculinity lies in our inability to have a conversation about men, masculinity, and gender.
Toxic masculinity lies in our own insecurities. 
Toxic masculinity is a problem for everyone and it is groomed by blame and playing the victim. 

WE, that means everyone of all identities, are responsible for shaping one another. We teach each other things. We show each other about one another.